The Good Wife

Check out Proverbs 31:10-31

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In the pending of the upcoming new year and my wedding in April, I have begun re-studying Proverbs 31 to be an outline of my "new years resolution" and a pledge for myself to God and my H2B (Husband to be) that by the time the wedding comes around, at least some of these Attributes should (hopefully) be second nature to me. the next couple days I will be blogging on the importance and life applications of a couple verses at a time. In this Blog we will be looking at the first 3 verses (PROV 31:10-12)

 

"It is hard to find a good wife, because she is worth more then rubies" (10)

 

A wife who's heart is fully in line with God is what Godly men should be aiming for and that is what women should be aiming to be and that is a hard task to achieve and it takes a long time to achieve it, therefor it can be considered rare and highly valuable. The Wife that is described in these Verses has her heart fully in line with God and her family, and this is what we should be aiming to achieve, not only for those who are married, or like me pending a marriage but for those that who have not yet found their shining knight. This is one of those situations where I think the saying applies "If you build it they will come" so if you start practicing these skills in your own life for yourself and your birth family, when your heart is ready, God will send your Knight and your heart will be ready to serve and honor him and your heavenly father.

 

"Her husband trusts her completely. With her, he has everything he needs". (11)

 

Trust, can be a complex situation to grasp, It is not just trusting that his wife is being monogamous or is treating their children right. Trust in a marriage covers all of these things and right down to preparing fortified food (hidding vegetables/ fruits within meals even though you know he doesn't like them without request/ permission) This is one I really struggle with, I am good with all the 'big' things but my fiance doesn't eat vegetables but I'm a bit of a vegieholic so cooking meals for him is a bit of a challenge and I am often tempted to grate up my favourite veggies and cook them in so that he doesnt know they are there and I have in the past especially when he is coming down with a cold or has hurt himself and his body needs more nutrients then what roast and chipped potato can provide. But I know this is wrong, and I am going to work on this, with Gods help I will have the right words to encourage him to look after himself without me having to trick him into it. With her, he has everything he needs means that, It is the wifes Job to supply/provide/ give her husband all that he requires so that he is not tempted to go else where for it. (On a side note, if your husband is silly enough to wonder, I'm not saying its your fault)

 

"She does him good not harm for as long as she lives" (12)

 

 

The Good wife, does not lead her husband into temptation nor does she put him down. In fact it is the role of a Good wife to raise her husband up and encourage him to be the best that he can be and be respected in society and in their congregation. Assisting where she can so that he can be all that God wants him to be. In saying this, A Good Husband should also do the same for his wife. We are not all natural born cooks, or gardeners or sewers and though most of these skills can be learnt, it doesnt mean that you have to be the best at it (I cant sew to save my life and I have a black thumb for everything but weeds) But the husband should not be putting her down because of this, a good husband should, like the wife, be raising his partner up, if she cant cook - encourage her to spend time with women who can, listening and observing is much easier then reading thousands of cook books or watching videos on you tube of how to glaze a ham.

 

In all I believe that these are all old time lessons that are essential to the modern wife aswell and I invite you all to come on a journey with me over the next 10 days as I prepare for the new year and wedding and applying them to our lives together. Please feel free to comment and add suggestions and more life applications of how we can strive to be better women of God and Good wives to our husbands.

 

 

Father,

when you created women, you had wonderful plans in mind for us to be amazing women in tune with your heart and caring providers for our families and communities. We are aware that we can not achieve this in our strength alone and ask for you to come into our hearts and guide us to be all that you created us to be. Today we thank you for creating us and giving us these verses to help guide us to become who you want us to be and ask that you today will help us be valuable to our husbands, be trustworthy providers and do good for our husbands and/ or future husbands. We love you Lord and know that we cannot achieve this without you and thank you for sending your Holy Spirit to earth so that we can achieve this.

Amen.